What you should do after you found your penpal ?

First of all, make your name, age and gender clear. It's not a special thing, but I often receive mails without them.

Write where you found your new pal's name. Some people join in many penpal sites. And if you tell your penpal where you get his/her info, it somehow makes a good impression on you.

Tell your hobbies and interests to your penpal. If you have similar interests to his/hers, it promotes friendship. Even if you don't, your penpal will get to know more about you.

If you write your interests are things like music or movies or books, tell them what kind of books you like, who is your favorite movie, books etc.

According to my experience, the best word written at the end of your mail seems 'Your new friend'. 'Yours' or 'Sincerely' is OK too. Women sometimes write 'Love' to their female penpals, even in their first mails. But if you're a male and write to a female penpal for friendship, never use 'Love'. It is scary.

You shouldn't write something that forces your new pal to write you, such as 'Whatever happens, do write back'. It makes your new pal feel bound. Your penpal will be sure to answer if you send a nice mail.

The rate of the answers to your snail mail is higher than those to your e-mails. About 80~90% of my new penpals write me back,but as for e-mails, only 60~70% answer my mails, though I write almost the same things. So if you want to have as many e-mail pals as possible, write to more people than you actually expect as your penpals.

Don't send a lot of e-mails at a time by writing many addresses in one mail, especially by CC. It gives your new penpal a bad impression. Each person who got your mail will think that you don't especially hope for him/her to become your penpal.

Be honest with your penpal. It is the basis of correspondence.

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